Dear Dad

Dear Dad ,

I want a house with 3 rooms : a bedroom , a dressing room , and a room for books where I can put a lazy boy chair and a coffee maker beside the book shelves .

I want to live on my own how lovely would that be ! coming home late , ordering a pizza on my way up to the apartment , switching the AC on until I take a lovely luxurious shower . Then I would take my hot cheese lover pizza and eat in front of the TV !

No Noises , no one asking me not to walk bare foot , no one judging how I eat .

If only I can have that kind of Independence , I would invite my friends when I want , and hide from the world when I want .


And I wish I could get married and not live with my husband under the same roof , I just think that this kills any relationship . uhhh if only I can get married while he stays in an apartment of his own and I stay in mine ! I would be visiting him and sleeping over without doing any thing religiously forbidden but at the same time enjoying the halal dating experience .If only !

Dear Dad

Dear Dad,

Physically every woman can carry a child inside her for 9 months, spiritually, emotionally and mentally not every woman can be a MOTHER. Any woman can play with a small cute baby for a while but not every woman can RAISE a child. If you don`t see yourself as a mother don`t force yourself into motherhood, if you want to be a mother educate yourself about how to teach a child and what to teach him .A child is a soul that Allah will ask you about and your reply can`t be “I wasn`t good because I just had a child to please my mother in law! “Or “everyone thought I am sterile and were giving me hard time about it so I shut them up and I was too young to know what to do “ .

I don`t think that all girls want to be mothers , I just think that some of them don`t want that but are afraid to say it out loud . They just do what the society forces them to do .

No one seem to calculate the gravity of the situation anymore " people have children each day it isn`t a big deal " they say ,or " we are up to it " although they have no single idea about they are doing .

And then the woman gets pregnant and starts jumping all over the place the minute she knows . she vomits daily and looses her appetite and ability to do many things , yet her husband still wishes that she stays that sexy all dolled up woman he married , I don`t even know how that is possible when she can`t even see her own feet !

The child arrives in the couples' life and the real story begins ! not the one they had in their minds where they are playing with the cute little thing day and night , kissing him and taking him out , no the other life in which they are both sleep deprived, in which they are all the time scared of the fact that the baby might put something into his mouth or climb over something .

The woman now had 3 full time jobs : worrying about the baby , house chores , being Marline Monroe . and if she works they are 4 .


All the above pictures are things all couples choose not to think about , and some of them do think about these facts but they then think it will be easy to over come . I don`t know about that but for me motherhood is an extremely difficult task , it is a task that ends a woman`s life . she no longer exists after being a mother , she disappears into the lives of her children who will never be able to pay her back and as soon as they learn how to walk they will go away from her and their father , as soon as they go to school they will ask for privacy , as soon as they go to college and then to work they will ask for Independence , get married and then dissolve into their own lives , leaving the father and the mother again to each other bit this time they don`t recognize themselves any more.

 I want to be a mother after I live for a while , after I travel , work , shop , visit places , after I enjoy having no responsibilities to the max .

Dear dad

I was once a people`s person, I used to love talking to my friends and going out and family visits.

Now I hate all of that, it is like I have been replaced with someone else.

I have no idea why did I turn into that aggressive creature, what was the cause of my dramatic change?

I need to know so that I can go back to the old me . do you think I can go back or this is just an irreversible situation? Am I stuck with this horrible new me forever?

I just need answers daddy, and I need them now before my life collapses and turns into pieces

Dear dad

الناس كلها بتتكلم فى حوار التعدد ده , انا عارفه انه حلال و مش هنرغى فده لأنى أكيد مش هحرم الحلال و فى رجاله كتير جدا عايزه تتجوز اكتر من واحده

 مع احترامى للكل بس لا ضرر ولا ضرار مش كده ؟ لما يقدر يخلىّ المجتمع ميعاملش الزوجه الأولى على انها معرفتش تحافظ على جوزها و يعامل الزوجه التانيه على أنها خطافه رجاله يبقى يقول عايز اتجوز تانى لأن انا كده مش هتحمل غيره و بس انا هتحمل ناس بتعاملنى على انى ناقصه . و اصلا ستات كتير مطلقات و أرامل ميقبلوش يتجوزو متجوز عشان مش عايزين حد يقولهم انتو خطفتو الراجل من على مراته و اللىّ هيقولى نظره المجتمع مش مهمه يا ريت تفتكر كم البنات اللىّ بترضى باى راجل و السلام عشان متسمعش
كلمه عانس و غيرها تموت ولا تسمع مطلقه و كتير يستحملو اى حاجه و لا سمعو كلمه خطافه رجاله

ثم أنا بحس ان الراجل اللىّ عايز يتجوز تانى بيبقى دايما شايف ان التانيه اللىّ هيتجوزها دى فيها كل حاجه مش فى الاولى و بينسى أن فيه عيوب موجوده فى الستات كلها هوّ هيخليها الطاق طاقين !

كل الرجاله بتشتكى ان الستات بتعيّط من غير سبب منتا كده هيبقى عندك أتنين بيعيطو من غير سبب ! و اتنين بيسألوك روحت فين و جيت منين مش هتبقى هارون الرشيد قوى زى منتا فاكر .

كل راع و كل مسؤل عن راعيته كده يا حلو هاتتحاسب على اتنين :)

فى بقى ستات حلها الوحيد أن الراجل يتجوز عليها ! مش عشان سنه و حلال و حرام لأ عشان يكسرها و يعدلها لأن فعلا فيه ستات متجيش غير بكده !

و فيه رجاله برضو لازم تتجوز واحده تانيه عشان تعرف قيمه الأولانيه !

Dear dad

أنا البنت الوحيده تقريبا اللىّ هننخطب لشخص بتحبه و عيزاه و مع ذلك مش طايقه يوم الخطوبه من قبل ميجى

بفكر فى اليوم بحس بخنقه رهيبه بشعه بحس أنى ممكن فى نص اليوم أسب الناس و أقوم أنهار عياط مثلا أو ازعق فى الناس كلها أقولهم أطلعو بره !

مكنتش عايزه حفله و لا عايزه أنى ألبس فستان و كنت عايزه أعمل الخطوبه فى تاريخ على مزاجى انا عارفه ان كل الناس بتقول ان المناسبه هىّ اللىّ بتعمل لازمه للتاريخ مع أن انا مش حاسه كده

كان نفسى أعملها يوم راس السنه مثلا أو يوم تاريخه يكون على مزاجى

من الأخر كان نفسى كل حاجه فى اليوم تبقى على مزاجى العروسه المفروض تقول هىّ عايزه ايه و يتعملها ده اللىّ أنا اعرفه لكن طلع اللىّ أنا اعرفه ده غلط و فى الأخر الكل مبسوط ألا أنا

هحاول أفكر أن انا مكبره الموضوع و أبسّط الدنيا و أكتب اللىّ انا نفسى فيه و أحلم بيه بدل ماحاول أحققه

thoughts

لو بنفكر ف" هنربى العيال أزاى " أكتر من " هنربيهم منين " بيتهألى كان حالنا بقى أفضل . بس كل و احده فالحه تشوف عيلّ صغير تبقى هتموت و تخلف على أساس ان العيال زيهم زىّ العروسه اللعبه هتلعب بيها شويه و ترجعها تانى ! و كل راجل يقولك مش دى اللىّ هتبقى أم عيالى على أساس أن هىّ لوحدها هتبقى أم و البيه هيبقى أب بارت تايم. مش كل ولد و بنت ينفعو و يقدرو يبقو أب و أم و مش كلهم لازم يعوزو يبقو أب و أم . لازم نبطل نتجوز و نخلف عشان لازم نعمل كده , الجواز و الخلفه لازملهم رغبه مختلفه تماما و بعيده عن العادات و التقاليد و اللىّ يصح و ميصحش .

Thought

Girls around the world dream of their wedding day, but girls in Egypt dream about the only day in their lives that separates between the cage they are living in with their parents and the jail called marriage life. Ironically they think that this one night will make them feel like queens! Like they can demand and get what they want, stupid Egyptian girls they still did not learn that marriage in Egypt is about the family and the guests!