Dear Dad,
Physically every woman can carry a child inside her for 9 months, spiritually, emotionally and mentally not every woman can be a MOTHER. Any woman can play with a small cute baby for a while but not every woman can RAISE a child. If you don`t see yourself as a mother don`t force yourself into motherhood, if you want to be a mother educate yourself about how to teach a child and what to teach him .A child is a soul that Allah will ask you about and your reply can`t be “I wasn`t good because I just had a child to please my mother in law! “Or “everyone thought I am sterile and were giving me hard time about it so I shut them up and I was too young to know what to do “ .
I don`t think that all girls want to be mothers , I just think that some of them don`t want that but are afraid to say it out loud . They just do what the society forces them to do .
No one seem to calculate the gravity of the situation anymore " people have children each day it isn`t a big deal " they say ,or " we are up to it " although they have no single idea about they are doing .
And then the woman gets pregnant and starts jumping all over the place the minute she knows . she vomits daily and looses her appetite and ability to do many things , yet her husband still wishes that she stays that sexy all dolled up woman he married , I don`t even know how that is possible when she can`t even see her own feet !
The child arrives in the couples' life and the real story begins ! not the one they had in their minds where they are playing with the cute little thing day and night , kissing him and taking him out , no the other life in which they are both sleep deprived, in which they are all the time scared of the fact that the baby might put something into his mouth or climb over something .
The woman now had 3 full time jobs : worrying about the baby , house chores , being Marline Monroe . and if she works they are 4 .
All the above pictures are things all couples choose not to think about , and some of them do think about these facts but they then think it will be easy to over come . I don`t know about that but for me motherhood is an extremely difficult task , it is a task that ends a woman`s life . she no longer exists after being a mother , she disappears into the lives of her children who will never be able to pay her back and as soon as they learn how to walk they will go away from her and their father , as soon as they go to school they will ask for privacy , as soon as they go to college and then to work they will ask for Independence , get married and then dissolve into their own lives , leaving the father and the mother again to each other bit this time they don`t recognize themselves any more.
I want to be a mother after I live for a while , after I travel , work , shop , visit places , after I enjoy having no responsibilities to the max .
Physically every woman can carry a child inside her for 9 months, spiritually, emotionally and mentally not every woman can be a MOTHER. Any woman can play with a small cute baby for a while but not every woman can RAISE a child. If you don`t see yourself as a mother don`t force yourself into motherhood, if you want to be a mother educate yourself about how to teach a child and what to teach him .A child is a soul that Allah will ask you about and your reply can`t be “I wasn`t good because I just had a child to please my mother in law! “Or “everyone thought I am sterile and were giving me hard time about it so I shut them up and I was too young to know what to do “ .
I don`t think that all girls want to be mothers , I just think that some of them don`t want that but are afraid to say it out loud . They just do what the society forces them to do .
No one seem to calculate the gravity of the situation anymore " people have children each day it isn`t a big deal " they say ,or " we are up to it " although they have no single idea about they are doing .
And then the woman gets pregnant and starts jumping all over the place the minute she knows . she vomits daily and looses her appetite and ability to do many things , yet her husband still wishes that she stays that sexy all dolled up woman he married , I don`t even know how that is possible when she can`t even see her own feet !
The child arrives in the couples' life and the real story begins ! not the one they had in their minds where they are playing with the cute little thing day and night , kissing him and taking him out , no the other life in which they are both sleep deprived, in which they are all the time scared of the fact that the baby might put something into his mouth or climb over something .
The woman now had 3 full time jobs : worrying about the baby , house chores , being Marline Monroe . and if she works they are 4 .
All the above pictures are things all couples choose not to think about , and some of them do think about these facts but they then think it will be easy to over come . I don`t know about that but for me motherhood is an extremely difficult task , it is a task that ends a woman`s life . she no longer exists after being a mother , she disappears into the lives of her children who will never be able to pay her back and as soon as they learn how to walk they will go away from her and their father , as soon as they go to school they will ask for privacy , as soon as they go to college and then to work they will ask for Independence , get married and then dissolve into their own lives , leaving the father and the mother again to each other bit this time they don`t recognize themselves any more.
I want to be a mother after I live for a while , after I travel , work , shop , visit places , after I enjoy having no responsibilities to the max .
i don't agree with you when you say that the travel , work , shop , visit places more interest you than motherhood
ReplyDeletei trust in the most important thing in the world is the motherhood ,becouse we build the new generation which will be our hope to be from the civilized societies
and don't forget that the words of almighty GOD( the heaven under the mothers' feet )